"Who" says things is just as important as "what" things were said.

Richard Pryor can absolutely say certain things Bill Maher can't the same way family members can say something to you that strangers can't.

It's about the relationship between the comedian and the audience or in your case, the relationship between your family and a complete stranger.

There's no "one-size-fits-all" regarding what to be upset about. "We" have always "picked and chose" what to be mad about.